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Ep. 169 - Stop Beating Yourself Up: A Kinder Way to Stay Disciplined

Rhiannon Bush Season 1 Episode 169

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You know those moments when you replay what you said or did, spiralling into “I should’ve handled that better”? 

In this episode, Rhiannon gets real about those not-so-proud moments, the harsh self-talk that follows, and why chasing perfection is exhausting. 

You’ll discover how to catch the voice in your head - whether it’s yours, a parent’s, or an old teacher’s - and start shifting it from the “stick” (criticism, shame, pressure) to the “carrot” (encouragement, compassion, support).

This isn’t about letting yourself off the hook. It’s about building discipline through kindness, not punishment. You’ll hear how self-care isn’t avoidance but choosing what truly fuels you long-term, and how softening your inner voice can actually make you more effective at work and more at peace with yourself.

  • Notice whose voice is behind your self-talk: yours, or someone else’s... and challenge it.
  • Replace the “stick” (criticism) with the “carrot” (encouragement) to stay disciplined without self-punishment.
  • Redefine self-care: it’s not avoidance, it’s choosing what fuels your long-term goals.
  • Shift from beating yourself up to backing yourself - compassion drives confidence and results.

If you’re tired of beating yourself up and ready to back yourself instead, this episode will shift the way you speak to the most important person - you.

Loved this episode? Take the next step with The Confident Communicator — my monthly coaching program designed to help you apply what you’ve learned and finally build unshakable confidence in how you speak, lead, and show up. Inside, you’ll get the support and accountability you need to stop second-guessing yourself and start communicating with clarity and calm authority. Join now at rhiannonbush.com/join